Yes i see your point, i once had a friend that told me i think too much and recently have been thinking about that phrase she said. If i let myself think about how bad people treated me in the past, i would be dead. I am so glad i had a great Thanksgiving, there were some difficult times between in laws who didn't show up at each others dinners but luckily we went to 2 of our in laws dinners and didn't have to get in any quarrels. I am so happy i had a great time as i was so scared as i get all flustered when i converse but i think people now understand finally my problem. I hope everyone here has nice and fun holidays despite their illnesses or problems.