Thank you. I'm not in therapy yet. I have an appointment, I've been doing a ton of research tho. I know I have the control over these fears it's just hard. I have always been a live and let live person, I don't care what joe smo is doing or saying as long as I am living a happy and good life (good as in being a good person). I know she is never going to change, it just makes me sad because the more she acts like this the less I am going to want to see her and be around her. I feel bad she won't see my kids grow up. But she won't let me live my life. Last Christmas she actually called me and yelled at me because my cousin posted a picture of my grandmother holdings daughter. She also doesn't know how to express her feelings, if we argue she throws things becomes physicly violent and gets in my face screaming. When this all came to a head I was 9months pregnant and I shouldn't have tried to make her listen I should have told her to leave my house. Thank you for listening to me, reading my post. The more I talk about it the more strength I am able to build up.