I have been married to my husband for 5,5 years and he has been battling the substance abuse disorder for all this time. He lost his job, never was able to find another stable employment, got in tons of problems with law, got arrested several times, convicted, jail time, all of it you name it.

This whole time I lived in hope he will stop one day and thing will get better, but it seems like I am starting to lose my hope.

I have been supporting him and us financially, working and paying the bills, including his huge lawyer's bills. We bought a home in my name, and I have been the one paying for everything. He would occasionally get a job for a couple months, help a bit, and then again lose it and it's all on me again.

I have just had it. I see no future any longer with him, and even though i love him, i cannot stand living like this anymore in a fear of him getting drunk again, stealing my money to go and do bad stuff like cocaine or getting more drunk (after which he gets arrested pretty much every time).

I want and NEED to live. But I feel no way out. My whole paycheque goes into paying mortgage, bills, and our credit card debts. He will not leave , i tried kicking him out already, he is not one of those honourable men at all. So he will stay and object me saying i would like to sell the house. He wont agree to sell it. Yet, he does not pay a single cent towards it and is not willing to leave! I cannot afford paying rent if i left on top of mortgage and bills for place he lives in!!!! How do i get out of this nightmare?!??? I feel so stuck .... Anyone can offer any suggestions? Any experience like this?