Ok, so I know if you have to ask, you usually are . .. but here's what happened . .
I gt off work and called my bf to see what time he was working and he said he had a friend over at our place and I instantly felt violated. I told him to always tell me before people come over. I thunk I need to re-explain to him. He has his issues he's working on, and for me, this is a big deal. It's not just that the place wasn't picked up the way I like it, it's the fact that for over 8 years this has been my sanctuary and just letting anyone in feels like a violation. Having a stranger see my bedroom, the bed sheets a mess no less is like having them see me naked. It's really upsetting.
Not only that, but it makes me think of all the other things that my bf keeps saying he's working on- I'm the one to ALWAYS vacuum and do the dishes and clean up around the place. I hate that it's like pulling teeth with him- I don't want to be a nag but come on! Not too mention the extra stuff of his that STILL doesn't fit anywhere that's just sitting in boxes around the place like a ****ing storage unit. (My moms' offered to help out but I've declined)
He can't even do his own ****ing laundry before it's overflowing two hampers. I've done it for him in the past because it's obnoxious (I hate feeling cramped) and it takes up extra space in our little apartment. I regularly put away his clean clothes for him because I can't stand that he lets it sit around for over 3 days in his hamper- he'd probably just let it sit there and pick clean clothes out of it instead of even putting it away)Maybe it's the OCD my mom blessed me with () kicking in, but I was taught to take pride in your home and your personal space. Clean space, clean mind and good energy (like a feng shui sorta mindset). It's true, when the place is clean and fresh and organised, there's always a better vibe. I used to be more messy but have changed my ways. I can't stand to let things slide so much- I remind him to help me pick up and I let things slide for several days at a time to see if he'll do it and to no avail, I can't let things get beyond dirty to the point of being gross! Ugh! So frustrated!

.............Oh, not to mention the bag of empty milk bottles he's collected and been meaning to take to the store to return for like $3 each its whole unpasturized milk) that he's had here for just about a month now sitting to the side on the kitchen floor!