I am sure you are feeling exhausted and desperate Jean77. It sounds like you need some help carrying this load. Have you tried a 'sit-down' with your husband when things are calm so he won't feel you are attacking him and discuss where to go from here? He probably needs to go back to his mental health provider, may need intensive treatment (possibly inpatient), and you need some counseling support if you aren't already getting it.

As far as the employment thing goes, I know someone who has been looking for a job for about six months who went to Goodwill and was working within a week. It was for a low wage but it has improved his mood dramatically. Don't know if you can do this if you are getting unemployment but you can check.

Best wishes. I hope you both find a better way soon.