The act of betrayal is a conscious one, we don't decide how we feel or who we fall in love with, so feelings cannot be classified as a betrayal.


Had you acted on your feelings by sneaking around, that would have been betrayal.


I think you did the right thing, both you and Christof. You both tried walking away from these feelings once they became apparent to no avail, and then decided to be honest about where you're all at.


Truth be told, they did not sound like they had the makings of a long term happy couple, and hopefully in time she'll realize their break up was inevitable, with or without you in the picture.


I for one am glad you guys are being open about it, because if you "played it safe" for the sake of propriety, and started dating a few months later, it would just make it look calculated, and or possibly as if you'd been sneaking around before their break up.

This way everyone knows the score, no assumptions, no speculation, no misunderstanding.


I wish my friend had told me she liked my bf instead of doing the nasty with him behind my back. Truth be told I would've respected her and handed him over on a silver platter, because A) I wasn't serious about him, and B) I valued our friendship more... Instead I was actually betrayed, and our friendship ruined unnecessarily...

But that's ancient history, water under the bridge...

You're not a bad person Doc