I struggled to consciously notice the positive with my T, always focusing on the times he frustrated me or said the wrong thing. But I have made astronomical progress in the last few months and I am starting to appreciate what a huge positive impact he has has on my life.
I think the most important quality he has is pure empathy and feeling. He genuinely cares and isn't afraid to show emotion which has been hugely validating for me. Another thing that has been enormously helpful for me is his willingness to share resources, ideas and psychological theory with me. He has armed me with knowledge and the power to understand myself. He is equipping me to become my own therapist.