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Originally Posted by kaliope
It is not about them getting it and it is not about receiving an apology. It is not about blame.it is about releasing your pain and letting go.I sent my dad a 10 page letter telling him all the ways I was hurt and how that has impacted my life today.I then told him that I was no longer going to play the role of good daughter and I was out of his life for good. When I stepped out of that role of trying to please him I finally started to heal. He didn't get it he didn't apologize but he doesn't matter to me anymore. He has no power over me anymore.
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Sounds like your dad is just like my mom, no apology, not having a clue as to what they did. I did the letter thing when I disowned them for three years. I just can't disown because of my dad. I feel so bad for him, yet I'm angry at him as well. My mom controls him. He never stuck up for me. He came from a family where mom was in control, no hugs, no emotions, so I feel bad for him. He avoids talking about anything, switches subjects. I'm so scared to cut ties and then I get a call that he's dead. He is also starting to show signs of Alzheimer's. I just go back and forth with this. Sorry I'm rambling, it's all up to me.