While I get having boundaries I wonder if the extreme ones like refusing cheap gifts, and even refusing to hug (a universal non-sexual gesture of caring) might do more harm than good. I'm becoming aware I'm probably in therapy because I don't feel cared about, and I probably love my therapist because he does that for me... I can't imagine how painful it would be if he wouldn't respond to my texts here or there or a phone call (once in a while) if I'm in crisis... Or if he wouldn't accept a cheap gift and wouldn't touch me... I think I wouldn't feel cared about and it would defeat the purpose of therapy entirely.