It depends. I'm a very boundary oriented person. For me, having a T that is flexible in his boundaries (letting a little bit of blurring but always very skillful) has helped me a great deal. I'm so rigid in how think things "should" be that to have him challenge me in some ways is good.
If I had a T that was really rigid, I don't know that I'd ever get anywhere in therapy.
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“It's a funny thing... but people mostly have it backward. They think they live by what they want. But really, what guides them is what they're afraid of.” ― Khaled Hosseini, And the Mountains Echoed
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