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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
You feel like you are doing a job because it is exactly true.
Why would you want to do that job?
Are you being paid for it?
No, you are not.
Are you being at least verbally appreciated for it?
No, you are not.
So why are you doing this job? He is not into you. A man who is into you would not say: "Oh well you cannot do this job so I am onto another girl who can". Since he has said it, conclude that he is not into you that much and stop seeing him altogether.
Your body and mind are not stupid - trust the signals that they are sending you! Your body is in pain and your mind is telling you that sex with this guy is a job and not a pleasurable activity. Take these two signals - pain and feeling that you are doing a job - as your truth, and act accordingly.
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I thought he is into me. He did everything for me and sex was a price to pay. I know it sounds horrible but I feel this way. He has strong influence on me. He explained me many times why he needs it and that everyone would laugh at us knowing we did it so rarely. He told me how relationships should be. I just tried to be normal.
Maybe job wasnt the right word. He presses me to do it when I dont want it. Maybe I wanted it if he didnt force me.
I know he will leave me if I wont sleep with him, he told me this. I said its not love but he said - Im sorry but I am man and I need sex, I will become old waiting for you.