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Originally Posted by lunatic soul
I thought he is into me. He did everything for me and sex was a price to pay. I know it sounds horrible but I feel this way. He has strong influence on me. He explained me many times why he needs it and that everyone would laugh at us knowing we did it so rarely. He told me how relationships should be. I just tried to be normal.
Maybe job wasnt the right word. He presses me to do it when I dont want it. Maybe I wanted it if he didnt force me.
I know he will leave me if I wont sleep with him, he told me this. I said its not love but he said - Im sorry but I am man and I need sex, I will become old waiting for you.
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Why is he lecturing you on how relationships SHOULD be? Since when is he an expert? Since then is there a "should" in it?
He himself is HIGHLY ABNORMAL. A normal man would not press you to do sex because... it would not be fun for him. Having sex with a girl who does not like it for a NORMAL man is no fun. A NORMAL man who is into a woman wants to at least not make her unhappy from having sex. Neutral ok, pleased better, but not unhappy. A NORMAL man wants the woman to be reasonably happy from having sex with him, just as a NORMAL woman wants the man to be reasonably happy.
Your bf is not normal.
I think you need to tell all of this to the therapist and discuss whether you have self-defeating personality traits with the T.