I see your point. Yes, being shocked was not cool, but that is not a reason to think that this T is representative of all T's or all men.

Also, in defense of your T, maybe he felt shocked because you look like a woman who has had sex. In other words, his feeling shocked is not to be interpreted as an indication that something is wrong with you, but simply an indication that you are not normal in the statistical sense. There is nothing wrong in not being normal in the statistical sense. geniuses are not normal in the statistical sense.

If you want to challenge your T, and I think you should, look up the tables that show the distribution of sexual debut age in women in your state, if they are available, and if not, look up national tables. From those tables you would see that, say, by age 23 X% of women have had their sexual debut, and Y=(100-X)% have not. Clearly, Y is going to be less than 50%, but I bet it will not be 1%, either. So get that number and tell the T: "You know what? When I told you that I was a virgin (I no longer am but that is a topic for another session), you looked so shocked that I started thinking that perhaps I had turned into a crocodile right before your eyes. Then I went home, did a bit of digging, and learned that I had not turned into a crocodile - Y% of women my age were in the same boat with me. Can you please tell me why the news shocked the hell out of you /or/ shocked you very much /or/ made you appear shocked?"