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Originally Posted by shibbyshan
I feel very ashamed right now. I offered myself sexually as i thought it may make him interested and we could end up together. Obviously, we all know that 9 times out of 10 this never happens, and it is just false hope. I don't feel he has led me on in terms of wanting a relationship with me, as he was pretty clear he didn't see one, but he went from saying he wanted me (assumed he meant sexually), to saying he wanted to just meet up and see how things went, to saying he feels smothered in a 72 hour period.
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I do not understand why you would feel ashamed. You did not hurt anybody or something. You might feel the sting of being rejected and you might feel embarrassed having found yourself in your situation, and both the hurt of rejection and the embarrassment from offering yourself sexually and not being taken are understandable, but feeling SHAME over this is completely uncalled for. Maybe if you bring your emotional reaction in line with reality, you would process the hurt faster and actually move on. Feeling shame is a grossly exaggerated reaction to what happened. It leads me to ask whether you have a lot of friends in RL.