Hello,

I am troubled by the fantasies I have been having since I was young (around 13 or so) regarding sexual masochism. I found the description below from this website and it hits home regarding what usually triggers my orgasms.

Sexual Masochism:

“Over a period of at least 6 months, recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving the act (real, not simulated) of being humiliated, beaten, bound, or otherwise made to suffer.

The fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.”[/I]

I have never acted on these fantasies. The few times I have tried getting rough in the bedroom make me NOT want to act out these fantasies. My question is, why does regular sex not turn me on? Sometimes it does online, but when I am with my boyfriend, I cannot orgasm. I can get turned on to the point where I get wet but never to the extent as when I fantasize about sexual masochism.

Should I see a therapist about this?