When I asked my T for a hug and he said no it hurt like hell. But interestingly the ensuing rupture seems to have strengthened our relationship and we have both learnt from what happened. I'm not saying I wouldn't like to hug him, but we have been able to work at other ways he can emotionally 'hold' me so it has been worthwhile in some ways and prepares me for self comforting I suppose.
The gift thing we haven't discussed yet. I plan to email him and tell him I have gotten him something small for Christmas so he has time to think about it rather than springing it on him (like I did with the hug thing)
The hug incident has actually prepared me for this kind of situation so I can accept it if he doesn't accept gifts.