Pink, I have the same sort of transferrence thoughts as you. My t always wears teh same coloured trousers so I look for them on othrs to soothe myself. Plus T has grey hair and mine is starting to go grey and that comforts me also. Its all about the idolising stage I think. I certainly do not have any problem with any of my actions or thoughts. I get my soothing from wherever it feels right to me at any given stage. I also want to get the colour trousers my T wears and I want to wear them to remind myeslf of her. Dont' see any of this as a problem for anybody else, its really none of anyone elses business how i live my life and grow in it, unless they're looking to ofload their own discomforts with who they are onto others!