With your writing style, you CAN write to her in such a way that she would not suspect that you are jealous or needy. You have a lighthearted, humorous, gutsy way of telling this story and sharing your feelings; this way seems to be very precise, and in that precise portrayal of your feelings you do not come across as jealous. My only suggestion as to the word choice would be to remove "hurt" and replace it with "frustrated".