I struggle with similar issues. I try to remind myself to give people the benefit of the doubt, to assume that I misinterpreted what was said or that they were just in a bad mood, to remember that it is more about them than it is about me.

It really is hard to stop this rumination. I hope work goes okay and that you can figure out some way of protecting yourself from that nasty VP. A lot of bullies really will move on to a new victim if you let them know you won't tolerate their behavior, but it can be hard to do that with your boss...