hi Darcydoll, welcome to PC. Sorry to hear you are feeling anxiety about fantasies and performance.

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What a friend told me helped her was to deepen her relationship with her boyfriend and the level of trust so that the person she is with is much more than a sexual partner, but a friend and close companion like having times where you share hugging without intent to have sex, gentle touching of arms or back or face, and just looking into each other's eye. Yoga trains this kind of alive presence. If two people practice together it can bring them closer. Face or back massage can be a way to open up the energy with the partner if the partner can suspend their impulse to have sex and just go with the flow.