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Old Dec 01, 2014, 10:06 PM
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Originally Posted by Shadix View Post
None of that has anything to do with the guy being older. It would be just as likely to happen if the guy was the same age or younger.

It seems to me that there is this underlying attitude among people that older men "don't deserve" younger women, therefore if an older man mistreats his younger girlfriend, it is much worse than if he did it to a woman his own age or older. When a young woman mistreats her older boyfriend, many people basically tell him he got what he deserves, I have personally seen this in online discussions.
It's not what I was trying to say. I am impartial when it comes to gender, "asshole" has no gender. Working with DV victims for years, I certainly see abuse being inflicted on partners of another age or of the same age as the perpetrator as well as on male victims by female perpetrators. Abuse is rooted in a sense of entitlement and desire to control and subject which has no age or gender limits.
Thanks for this!
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