If it helps to hear about other similar problems...

I obsess over one of my friends- I just think she is amazing and sweet and caring and smart and charismatic... She's awesome. I sort of use her as a sounding board to relax my emotions and decipher what I'm thinking... Ad she's really good at that. I just hate taking so much of her time and energy... Its a hard balance. I've also tried erasing her from my head and thinking of other things and people, I've tried other techniques of calming myself down..... They don't work. Not nearly as well as she does.

Its hard. Really hard.

Sometimes I think its not such a bad thing. If you can "talk"to her in your head and get advice that way... I think that may be adaptive... My therapist once told me that if I can't get the advice of a supportive person I should try to imagine what a supportive person would say

Does that help?