I can see how a young women whose interests and personality are very mature for her age might find older guys more attractive as a partner than younger men. However, I personally wouldn't be involved in a relationship like this. I'd worried that by the time I'm 35, he might be too aged to do many of things I'd like or at least at the pace I'd like to. Also, I'd be afraid of conflict because of my lack of experience of aging and its health issues, or that a partner would be jealous of my youthfulness. Also, I wouldn't like the fact that they had many more years of life experience than myself. It would feel like it could be used against me. For example, when I was a teenager, I was much more mature than others my age and was interested in topics that had greater depth than the norm of my age. I thought I was as mature as an adult. However, once I reached adulthood, I see my teenage self as a little girl compared to the experience I have now. I feel that even in my own confidence in my maturity and wisdom, by the time I'm 30 I'll probably not see my current wisdom or maturity as anything special. So, it does make me worried about experience gaps between myself and an older person.
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