Dear Randman78, You sound like a very devoted son. I understand it is important for you to love and respect your mother, but you deserve the same! You to deserve to have a happy and fulfilling life with your friends and future relationships. Mom is being selfish maybe narcissistic. I am not criticizing her. I have a very similar relationship with my mother and I have learned over the years that if I did everything her way I would never find myself. Good luck and remember you can still love mom but you must also love yourself!