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Originally Posted by NowhereUSA
It may not have been the words but the tone? I know that word is a trigger word for people and at the same time, I've been on the receiving end of someone treating me poorly over the phone. I worked in an industry where I handled people's money. Sometimes my clients would have an error (as will happen) and some of those clients would call and attack me personally.
I think calling her insensitive was a personal attack and may have triggered her defenses. She sounds like she's trying to work with you and you were in an emotional frame of mind. Could she have handled it differently? Perhaps. She is human however. She might have been offering a complimentary session to help transition or to check in with you.
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Thanks for your input. It was via email so not sure what the tone came across as.
She was not offering a complimentary session. In fact I don't even know what she was offering. I agree that calling her insensitive was personal - but it felt insensitive for her to be saying, I'm here but for us to both know she isn't right now. But she's said I'm misunderstanding and she is here.
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Originally Posted by brokenwarrior
I do not find what you said abusive. I think it would have been helpful if your T acknowledged your financial situation right now and that you are really stressed and not able to pay her. Maybe it's possible your T thinks you are hiding behind your financial issues. It seems like you are in a really bad place right now. Do you feel like maybe that could be a possibility?
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Thank you. She might think that and that's probably what made me so pissed off as to flare up at her in the first place - because it's the pain of quitting therapy vs anxiety about not being about to pay the rent and electricity in January, a really difficult choice which I felt she made light of.
Until I messed up this job I was due to start on Monday, I was running on a vibe of keeping going to therapy and I'll start earning again soon. But now I don't seem to be able to earn, so it's terrifying.
I am in a dreadfully bad place. I don't feel like myself. I'm telling everyone (ok not everyone, but all my friends) how low I am and that is NOT me. I feel helpless and out of control, that I can't fake it anymore except in very short, timed bursts (like I'm not going to tell my friends whose parent is waiting to find out if they have cancer).