I just became a member of this forum because of your same issue! My beautiful girlfriend of 8 months and I just got into an argument the other night. We went out on the town and once again I was unsure of what to do or how I could act. I felt like she didn't even care. She is not the most affectionate one, but she has shown affection slightly at times so I know its there. This bugs me a lot because I am insecure about her difficulty with showing affection/passion, but at times I see it there! My girlfriend does smoke ALOT of weed, and this bothers me because I believe that she is dependent on it and I believe her being "high" all the time takes the affection out of the relationship! When I try to explain to her my feelings, when I finally gain the courage to look weak and needy, I feel like she really isn't listening and is being really stubborn. Long story short, we broke up and I don't really want to get back together until these issues are worked out. I don't know what advice to give you or what to do, but I just want you to know that I understand. Express your feelings and maybe tell him you want a separation and time to figure out the issue. The issue is most likely rooted in both of you as individuals and you both may have to figure out what is wrong and how you can work on it together.