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Originally Posted by hannabee
From what you've written I agree, she shouldn't have said "I'm here"...it didn't mean ANYTHING from my view though, just that she didn't know WHAT to say because she KNEW she wasn't going to say " it's ok, no need to pay me". Kind of like a filler, instead of um or er or plain I don't know what to say. You kind of busted her when you called her insensitive, but I agree with you, she WAS being insensitive as she probably could and should of offered a free visit, but didn't.
IDK, maybe therapists NEVER do free sessions? My H and I were self employed for many, many years and we did plenty of free services for our customers. Especially when payment was a hardship.
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Thank you.
In fairness to her, my therapist gave me many free sessions for a four month period before. I neither expect nor want that again, because it made things totally headmelting in the end - but I do expect honesty.
You are right that she probably said 'I'm here' as filler probably without thinking about it - from carelessness, not meaning to be insensitive. I'm so touchy right now I picked up on it rightaway and reacted.
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Originally Posted by Yearning0723
Honestly, I think you know you could have been less snappy, but I think you were definitely not "abusing" your T. It's the T's job to handle anger, transference, frustration, whatever; as the client, obviously you have some issues you are working through and obviously you are going through a really tough time right now and have no reason to be "on your best behavior" for your T. It's your T; you're supposed to be able to just be yourself and act the way you feel in that moment. I think the only time a client is ever "abusing" a T is if they threaten them, harm them physically, or do other things that might make their T feel unsafe. Being snappy is not "abusing" a T. It's an occupational hazard, and if your T doesn't know that, then she might not be particularly suited to this profession. Her issue, not yours. Hope things get a bit better for you.
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Thanks...this would have been my view too but the whole bloody thing made me doubt myself. I do think you can verbally abuse somebody, but to me that is something different than what I said - it would be calling someone an insulting word, etc. And yeah, therapy is pointless if you have to be on best behaviour. **** that ****. This is the woman who told me it was ok to get angry towards her a week ago
Well, I was angry. Now I'm irritated and mistrustful.