I love my sister very much. She is 2 years younger than me (I am 51). We have always been close but have become much closer since 2011 when I tried to commit suicide. She has been the only one in my family to ever visit me in the hospital (I suffer from Bipolar II Disorder and have been hospitalized 3 times).

I went to my first Nar Anon meeting last Friday and from what they are saying my sister is addicted to her boyfriend, who is addicted to drugs (he goes from crack to prescription tranquilizers and cycles this way every week. A few days on crack, a few days zoned out on benzodiazepines and then "normal" for 2-3 days).

They live together and I just cannot bring myself to go over there anymore but I miss my sister so much. She is my best friend. I am also hurt that she does not want to come to my house to visit but I must always go over there.

The last 3 times I have been over there her boyfriend and I got “into it”. He always tells me to leave “his” house (even though my sister lives there too) which of course I am ready to leave anyway.

I want to call him a million different terrible names and do him great bodily harm.

Because I hate him so much right now I want to visit his probation officer and tell her what is really going on in his life.

I know about karma and all that but for once can’t I be the one who brings forth the **** that can bring him down?

I know I probably shouldn’t do anything and I probably won’t but this is causing great stress for me and mostly for my mother. My sister looks like she has aged 10 years in the past 6 months and my mother is very concerned.

My mother is 81 and has recently been having heart/lung problems.

I mean, what would you do?

Nancy.