My therapist just bashed my Ex T regarding his loose boundaries with his clients.
I think he is holding his boundaries tight with me because he knows I spent so many years with Ex T and I think he believes I was not done justice, that I shouldn't have grown so attached, that I should be further along with my growth. He has somewhat reluctantly allowed me to email him as long as I don't do it too often, and as long as I don't expect a response. If I am having a hard time, he has offered an extra session,
but usually I don't need that....I would just like to talk on the phone for a few minutes.
But, he says he doesn't do phone therapy. I think that is being too ridged. He know how much that type of contact has meant to me. I think a T should bend a little to what was offered by previous T, knowing the difficulty of lack of support one is used to would be. Funny, I longed for the occasional hug from my ex T......I cant see that I will ever care to have a hug from new one. Even if he loosens up a little with me, no hug required thank you. For me, the attraction to my T was the main reason to hug him. I miss that attraction. I miss the playfulness in my therapy. I like loose boundaries I guess.