My T would tell me to let go of my black and white, all or nothing thinking. That I can't say today that this or that thing will never happen, because that discounts my ability to change, grow, learn. My T would tell me that I'm developing my growing edge. My T likes to point out the flaws in my thinking patterns.

Your T spontaneously said "abuse" whether knowing it was insensitive or trying for shock value, or it just slipped out in the heat of the moment.

Sounds like my T practices diplomacy and your T is real. I can appreciate acting very "in and of the moment" but at the same time, why use such a triggering catch-phrase?