How exactly did you manage to do that?

Do you yourself not see that it is a nonsensical phrase?

Another nonsensical phrase: " listen to each other breeding via free messenger on FB"

Was it a Freudian slip? I am just making fun of you - I realize that you meant breathing.

Reread your post. Reread it very carefully.

- he says
- he introduced
- he wants

So we know a LOT about what he thinks. What do we know about YOU?

"I need input".

My input is that he is like a puppeteer, per your description. But I think that this whole thing has been happening to you is actually terrific, because it has revealed, in a completely safe setting, something about you that would most definitely endanger you in other situations, because you let other people hold the strings. You need more independence, more of your own opinion, more of what YOU want and YOU like - those things.

No, I take it back. A puppet at least has her own face. The puppeteer holds the strings, but the puppet has her own face.

A better analogy for your role in this relationship: malleable playdough. Whatever shape he wants to form from you is OK by you. You do not have your own face or your own voice.

I would take this experience, from that whole year, to a good therapist. There is a lot of work to do for you, with the therapist, because that degree of passivity, flexibility, being highly impressionable makes you extremely vulnerable. It is like with people whose blood does not clot - they can bleed to death. You are NOT there - you DID ask for INPUT from neutral third parties and I applaud your decision to seek advice, but seeking this advice is just a baby step forward. You need professional guidance.

But reread the OP yourself - do not trust my judgment, but make your own. Reread the OP - it is short - noting the instances of "he", "we", and "I". I would be highly educational for you.

I would take the "thanks god" approach if I were you - things could have been much, much better. If someone in RL and not across the globe started telling you what needs to be done for bonding and you would have no opinion of your own, that would be much worse.