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Originally Posted by eskielover
So what is keeping you stuck with your parents & why don't you leave if it's so bad?......I know for me with my bad marriage I felt trapped for so many years but was finally able to get free & I left as soon as it was possible. I understand financial issues....but if you don't do something now to start changing the ability to leave your family.....you are the only one who can do that. I found that we can't always depend on others to fix what is going on inside of us.....the bottom like is that there isn't a T in the world that can do that.....it always comes down to what we are willing to change & fix inside of us & sometimes depending on the DX, medications can help. Obviously while you are trapped with your family.....you are limited.....therefore YOU need to do whatever is necessary to get out & to get the help you really need since you can't get it where you are living. Until you leave situations that are seriously causing problems.....nothing will change in the first place.....I found that out the hard way also.
Leaving doesn't guarantee a fix if the problem IS internal.....but it does open the door to working on the things that are really bothering you about yourself since you will only be able to get outside help if you leave your parents who are limiting you.
Just chatting with people isn't going to fix your problems. Having a T doesn't mean that you will get help either....I went 20 years going to T's & got no help until I was able to get in with this current group after I left my H after 33 years of marriage.......there is nothing magical that will fix you....just a lot of hard work on your part which is something that can be done through self-help also....reading & understanding yourself better & learning skills are what we all need & is what helps......no one in reality can fix you but you.....T's are only there to guide.
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another thing that keeps me stuck in this home, and offends my sleep rest if i leave for the society is similar in CONCEPT to the boy's situation in the movie the sixth sense,but mine is very easy to understand at an allowance to elaborate and explain, for it also happens in ppl lives but goes unnoticed most of time.