As a mom, I can understand your mom wanting to comfort you by hugging you. It's hard for a mom when the child gets too big to hug. I know when I was younger hugging people made me uncomfortable, too, but it made my mom happy. So when I would go to her house I would give her a quick, stiff little hug. I would give her a big one today if I could only see her one more time.

You may have to tell your mother again how much it bothers you. She should respect your wishes, even if she finds it hard to do. Sit down with her when you are not upset and explain it again. When our children are babies hugs are one form of comfort. It is hard for us to accept that we can't give that comfort as they get older. I've recently started hugging my daughter (30yr old) when I leave her presence. Mainly, because I now realize how short our time left together is. I want her to know how important she is to me.

I hope you try to be patient with you mom. Best wishes.