Sometimes people need that in a T. My T is like that, and I hate it. I do NOT need that in a T, it hurts me but then again it might be for the best since I have transference physical contact could make it worse. A tricky question. I would like to be able to give her a gift or keep in email contact with her, but the latter she's said we can't...a bit hurtful to say the least. We have discussed it though and I get that it's not her choice, she could get fired if she bent the rules, but still....it does suck.