You know, Granite, you assume that anger is a negative, scary, bad emotion--so if anyone feels it in response to something you've shared, you think the anger is like a weapon pointed at you. Perhaps because you're too afraid to feel your own anger--and so she'll keep it for you until you're ready to get closer to it. But anger is also powerful and can be a source of productive energy. It can motivate people to take action towards a good result. Righteous anger. As children, if our parents show anger toward us, or exhibit out of control anger, it's very, very scary. I think it's your child perception that is responding to your T's feelings of anger. But you can try to see her anger from your adult perception. You may be confused by it--what is she angry about?--but not necessarily threatened by it. Anger that a baby was neglected can be a form of empathy. You are disconnected from that baby, so don't feel the empathy in her anger. But your T does.