Therapy is all well and good. But, in the end, somethings you have to do for yourself. It doesn't sound like you or your mother has money to be spending on therapy. That doesn't mean just keep things as they are till you can go to therapists.
You are a nice, respectful, caring son. I don't think you are looking to do anything awful to your mom. You are intelligent and you know what your rights are. I don't care if you had an army of therapists, your mom is still going to be wild, if you emancipate yourself. However, that might be the best therapy for her. Like I said above, she is probably stronger and more adaptable than she seems.
You are somewhat comfortable in the status quo. You have a right to keep it that way, if you don't feel up to making changes. Or you can change - a lot, or a little at a time. No therapist can give you an easy formula for how to go about this. So don't fall into the trap of thinking, "Well, I would make changes if, and only if, my mother could afford a therapist . . . because I can't go shaking her up. Yes you can. And she will survive it.
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