my T has hugged me twice at the end of sessions - including the day i admitted to my transference issues - but at my last session (which was kind of a rough one) i asked for a hug at the end and she told me no. she said she didn't want me to feel rejected (umm, yeah kind of unavoidable), but that she felt like my transference issues were coming back up again and she didn't want to "muddy the waters" for me. man that hurt. and i guess the worst part was that it was at the end of the session and there was no opportunity to discuss it further. she doesn't do email and phone calls are unreturned unless it's truly a crisis. i trust her judgement and i guess she is just trying to protect me from myself, but that rejection - intentional or not - felt awful. i just wanted some comfort, but unfortunately we are doing some dbt stuff and working on self-soothing so i guess it was a teaching moment. i don't mind fluid boundaries, but it sure does hurt when they become more rigid without warning.