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Originally Posted by Maria116
I agree. Last night I went on a first date with a man I had met online. We had drinks at a pub on 3rd Ave. in midtown Manhattan. We had a nice time, he was educated etc, came off as a quality kind of man. I decided to see him again. To my surprise he suggested going back to his place "to watch movies." I said no, he kept asking, I said: come on, I just met you. I made it clear I wanted to wait for sex. We went outside, he offered me a ride back to my parking garage. Like an idiot I said yes. In the car, he started heavy making out. He's a big guy, I'm a light girl. He ignored my no's, but no, I did not fight him or scream or run out of the car. I should have. He drove me back to the garage. Today I woke up with bruises on my legs and feeling so disgusted I can't describe it. And today he texted me like nothing had happened - so how is your day going. Now I'm reading a New York Times article on something called "Gray rape." I think that's what happened. And I guess he thought everything was totally fine and we'd meet up again! Well no. If you wanted to date me, you could have. But you can't use the same woman as dating material and a cheap f****.
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I am sorry to hear that happened to you the other night Maria116 but you have to learn to fight back because if you don’t there are always going to be people like him that will take advantage of you and when you say “no” the only thing they are going to hear is “yes.” I am not a violent person but I grew up with an abusive Father that got drunk most nights and physically abused me and my big sister and the last time he did it I hit back and I knocked him out. Learning to defend yourself can be hard and if you have never been in a fight it will be harder but you can be small or light and take down guys that are twice your size if you know the right moves. After my Wife was raped she learned how to defend herself so no bloke could ever hurt her again and while she might be pregnant now when she isn't she can take me down and she is only 5 ’7.
I think it is important for women to learn to defend themselves these days because there are a lot of blokes that will try to take advantage of them and my Wife taught my step daughter some basic self-defence moves and she is going to do the same thing with all our daughters when they are older but if any bloke lays a hand on one of my daughters I will find out just what hand he used and then I will smash it with a hammer.