That's BS!!! If she wants to change the rules, she should leave (unless of course, she is the only one named on the lease).

But, then again, if she is willing to pay to relocate you, and you can find a suitable place (I like a change once in a while, though), then let her pay - for ALL of it!

Oh, I feel for you, ladymacabeth. This is a situation that really requires alot of tact in negotiating a compromise. I do think your T is right, however, if you are prone to accepting things to accomodate others all the time, most especially if you are always on the "losing end of the deal" and that trample on your rights.

Stay strong!