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Somebody has offered to do something for me that will really help me out of a jam, and it was a completely unsolicited offer and made in all sincerity and genuineness. It took me a day to accept it, and I feel like a complete schmuck for doing so.

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Candy, sounds to me like you're doing great! If you did "finally" accept it, who cares that you have a schmucky feeling for a bit, it's either that or not get out of the jam? I think the more experience you get doing "it" the better you'll get at it. So, I'd work on making yourself recognize and accept everything that comes your way :-) Make up a list of "thank you", or "Please!" etc. responses and decide to accept 3 offers a day (so you'd have to work hard at "hearing" the offer in the first place; I get so use to instantly rejecting that I don't even hear what was offered or think about it well enough :-) or a certain number a week. After awhile the "game" will be second nature and you'll learn all the myriad ways one can offer "themselves" to others (which is another form of vulnerability) and perhaps will have learned some new ways to be helpful/attuned to others in a way you really like?