wow i just posted about it.
seems to me that the soluion is focusing on being yourself, explaoirng what a wonderful creature you really are....

i posted about this subject in the self help ideas forum entitled "self reliance..." i read it and it really inpired me and gives me a lot of courage and i sort of started to change my behaviour.

one of the things he says is that our lifes are
"i am not here to please the world. i am here to live."
i really like it. it says everything in such straight words.