Im the significant other in his life. first things first:
i work two jobs
i am going back to school in jaunary
i am totally faithful
ive always suppported his changes...there are millions
im the one begging him to get this help
my major is psychology
i want him to better himself and if leaving me is necessary...good for him
i pay the bills
he crashed our new car with a suspended license and got pulled over in two other cities and continued to drive until I begged him to stop
he doesnt listen for the life of me
im much more mature and responsible than this man and Im going to be 29..not 28 by the way
i have taken several setbacks from this relationship
i have given him two children
allowed him to not work presently and previously to further his education
feed him all the healthy food he wants or could ever want
he verbally abuses me and is condescending
he doesnt believe in working
he wanted to be a rapper, a salesman, a marketer, a mason, a muslim, a vegetarian, 5 percenter religion, a vegan, smokes weed everyday practically since we met and ive begged him to stop..now he has decided to slow down and i dont smoke at all but he still talks all this about me
i do drink mikes hard lemonade once or twice a month and dont go out at all
i beg him to stop cursing at me and get help for his anger
ive asked him to keep himself clean daily
i can only believe what im reading because he is delusional
thank you for supporting him but he got this website from me and now its a weapon against me
please dont feed his delusions...i work six to seven days a week....today is my only day off...guess what happened
just today he planned a meeting with his uncle that doesnt work that is being take care of by his wife...in this meeting they study black law and moor principles which is interesting. I simply dont agree its the best use of his time. For instance, i want him to go to the national guard but he believes he shouldnt...all in all i just want the best for him...Im okay with his changes if he treats me better as his woman....im doing all I can for him but its never enough and he is always a new person...if he has outgrown me by being upset that i offer him food that he just stopped eating last week...well...Ive been through so much i feel like his mother and all i can do is laugh and worry who will take care of him when Im gone...
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Originally Posted by theSI
Salutations comrades, I've been here a number of times detailing my struggles and triumphs within myself and now that I've grown to a comfortable place within myself I'm noticing glaring issues in my relationship with the mother of my children.
We've been together for 5 going on 6 years now, we've had plenty of ups and downs but we've managed to stay together through it all. What the main problem is my transition into a more spiritual and grounded way of living and being isn't meshing that well with my more "traditional" to say the least significant other.
Our perspectives on almost every subject is polar opposite of one another but we accept our differences in opinion and perspective. The problem arises for me her inability to CHANGE, its something she doesn't generally embrace and I've made complete turnarounds in my life to become a better person, not to say that she hasn't in her own ways you know but as far as lifestyle changes or letting go of dogmatic ideals and principles and being more open minded I feel like I'm talking to a brick wall.
This is problematic for me because I feel that my growth is stunted when we're not on the same page. I don't know how to tell her this without her jumping the gun and thinking I'm trying to break up when all I'm trying to do is bring the problem to our attention...I'm around bad influences constantly I've dedicated my life to healthy eating and living but she always tries getting me to drink or eat something she knows I'm against eating/drinking.
It's like she doesn't even respect the changes I'm making and its frustrating, sometimes I do feel like we shouldn't be together anymore because I've outgrown her and she's older than me! She's 27 about to be 28 in a few months I'm 25 as of august 18 it's not the maturity but the overall change as a person that she seems to not be able to adapt to. I'm still me in essence just more positive and more SOBER. It pains me to think that maybe we should go our separate ways but I can't continue living with someone not on the same wavelength as me it'll eventually lead me back downward where I don't plan on going ever again...
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