When I started therapy as a teen, I never really opened up. I did have a therapist who I trusted too.

Being a teen is already difficult. Just try to continue to be patient and understanding.

Have you tried reaching out to her? Write her a letter, snail mail. Be sincere and support. Don't tell her you know what she's going through. Don't offer advice. Just offer her love and support and let her know you're still there and will always be there. Give it time. Most girls are "daddy's girls", and so there might be a sense of abandonment.

I was a "daddy's girl". My parents divorced when I was 17. The divorce was long overdue. My parents went into their bedroom. We could hear my mom crying. My dad walked out and told me and my sister they were going to get a divorce and he was leaving. He just walked out the door. He left me behind with my abusive mother who hated me. I felt so betrayed. My dad would come back to see my little sister, but he never said a word to me. I found out later that my mom was telling him I didn't want to talk to him, and she told me that he didn't want me anymore. If my dad and I would have just talked, he would have taken me with him and I wouldn't have wound up being kicked out of the house by my mom and homeless at 18.

Keep trying. Don't ever give up. But also understand that your daughter just might not be ready for therapy.

Also, if you're doing things for your other kids, make sure you do the same for your 13 yr old. If you take the others out for food, bring your daughter food. If you take them out clothes shopping, buy your daughter something...even a gift card. And always invite her. This will help her know that when she's ready to reach out, you will be there.