Readers digest version:
I was married for 14 years to a great girl. 2 daughters. My ex has borderline. After years and years of therapy for her and I we were stable. She then came out as gay, which explained or noon sex life. I decided enough is enough and we divorced 3 years ago.

I remarried about 6 months later and many times I regret that for various reasons. Any way my current wife also had a gay husband. So we were starved for sex. We've been together for nearly 3 years now.

My issue is my wife is always going to get ex husband for advice, to cry a shoulder on, etc. I feel betrayed. I am really wondering if she had moved on? Then I ask myself did I really leave right time to heal? Why would she go to her ex so much? I've asked her and she said she keeps a relationship with him because of their kids. Also last night she said he had hurt her so much she can't trust anyone again.

I was divorced when I met her but she was still married and just started to go through the divorce after we met. I need to know why I feel this way? Am I ok want her to cry on my shoulder rather than her ex? I feel 3 years is enough to trust me but for some reason she can't. HELP!!