You can have traits and not be BPD. I asked my T if he thought I was BPD (he's DBT trained and works with BPD clients). It took me forever to get up the courage to ask because I was terrified. He told me that he didn't think of me as BPD at all. I spoke with my PDoc too (apparently I was given this diagnosis when I was hospitalized six years ago from a PDoc who literally saw me all of 20 minutes). He said that I might exhibit some traits here and there but that I wasn't and he removed the diagnosis from my chart.

It was a relief for me, just because it was something that had me questioning myself.