My live in boyfriend of 3 years was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in September of this year, after a failed suicide attempt. He was hospitalized, did outpatient program and was back on track and happier than I had ever seen him. I noticed he had dipped into a manic cycle and asked if he had been taking his medications which he said "sometimes". I counted them and he had missed the previous 5 doses. I let him know how important it is for him to be consistent and he agreed. Fast forward to a week later, he tells me that his mental health is depleting, and I am right; he needs to focus on himself and stay with his parents (he is 29, they live about 3 miles from us) for a period time bc he can't offer the support I deserve in the relationship and in a partner.

We have a fantastic relationship, I can count the amount of times on one hand we have gotten into an argument and they're always rectified before bedtime. We never go to sleep mad. I saw him for the first time in two weeks on Monday night to give him some of his mail and the moment we locked eyes, we both started bawling. Said we missed and loved each other but he couldn't come home yet and needed to really be focusing on himself, which I agreed with, although it hurts like hell for him to not be there.

Last night, he texted me asking if I had thought about anything I was going to do with our apartment; as in, giving it up and moving out since the rent is too much for me to handle alone. I have already made a plan of working extra hours and possibly getting a second job to be able to stay at our place, it is the only security I have. He has only taken 3 bags of clothes with him to his parents and has not come to collect anything else in about 2 weeks time. In my heart, I know he loves me deeply. I know he wants our relationship but knows he CANT do it right now, which I get. All I am having a hard time grasping is why, on Monday, he was crying in my arms saying he loves and misses me and then yesterday, asking what I plan to do about moving out/moving on. The emotions are SO back and forth and we had another huge crying conversation last night with me telling him I am okay on the back burner until he's ready for this relationship to continue.

My question is, I know his medication takes 4-6 weeks to fully get into his system and he has only been taking it religiously (I THINK) for 2 weeks. Only been to 1 therapy session and it's seeming to help but he clearly needs much more. Am I being completely naive to think after he kind of gets his head on straight, so to speak, he will be able to come back home and work on US once his mental state is better? I have given him no time limits, no "rules"; he just knows I clearly love and miss him. When I get to asking him what he ultimately wants, he says "I don't know babe". So clearly, he isn't thinking clearly. Anyone been in a situation like this or have any words of wisdom to offer me? Thanks for reading this all.