Fuzzy, all that DOES matter, you DO matter and it WASN'T your fault!!!!
Maybe your T was trying to find a reason for it, but that doesn't mean it can be excused, it doesn't make it right or deserved, abuse is ALWAYS going to be wrong.
And how the **** does your T know how "endearing" you were or weren't!!!!!
And I'll tell you if you were being abused there's every justification for you not being "endearing" towards her!!!
And last rant even if you were anything but "endearing" then that doesn't give anyone the right to abuse you. In fact they should be extra attentive, caring, supportive, in getting to the route of any problems you might be having, in helping you feel more content..........

But in the here and now...........well you know that you shouldn't be punished for her failings, right??
Just as much as she shouldn't have any right at all to continue hurting you........I know it does hurt..........but you know you deserve more/better, right??!!
So maybe try to see the good person you are in our eyes a bit more, and how much other people (including us!!) care about you. I really do know it doesn't make the rest "just go away" but at least you've ended up being recognised for the amazing person you are and have finally found the caring you truely deserve. The caring you deserved back then.

Alison