I definitely do feel better than I have in a while. Going last night to the gym, and even waking up this morning certainly doesn't feel as hopeless or depressing as it has over the course of the last couple of months. Seeing my ex-GF smile last night definitely put me in a better mood. I think the overall sense of just going out and being social again helped me a lot. I'm certainly not going to be doing that again, not going to the gym that is. No need for me to be miserable just to appease my Mom, especially when I haven't done anything wrong.

My Mom did ask me who was at the gym last night, and I mentioned one of the guys names, but quickly changed the topic to something else, and didn't say my ex-GF's name either. However I'm not sure if this is the right approach or a healthy thing to do? I guess that's where I need to seek professional advice? Do I make these changes quietly so my Mom won't notice as much, rather than just ripping it off like a band-aide? I honestly haven't mentioned my ex's name in months, and I'm not sure if I should or shouldn't? I suppose that's one of the reasons I'm came to this forum; not just to vent, but to get some opinions on how I should handle the situation as I make these changes in my life. Slow and steady, or fast and hard with my Mom?

I personally feel fast and hard won't help the situation, but I'm not a professional. Doing things like changing over all my banking and credit card statements to come to me via email vs. the mail, so that I have control over that stuff are things I'm starting to do. (My Mom won't touch my computer or phone, she doesn't like using that stuff and really doesn't know how). I thought if I started slowly with things like that, that might be the best approach?