Direction, who is a man, has said much that it true here, and in few words! LIsten to him, Sadmommy!
This could turn into a long and convoluted process for you...couples counseling, and his playing the couselor, getting her to laugh... Is she laughing with disdain or joining in with his humor? Therein lies the rub! If he is getting validation from her feedback, while you are hurting, how is this helping you. If the counselor is perceptive and formulating helpful opinions, then perhaps it is worth it.
I'm just not reading much about the couple's counseling that sounds positive from your perspective.
Look at your life now, and ask yourself if this is what you want for the remainder of your time.
Love
Patty