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Originally Posted by Middlemarcher
Btw, I wanted to add that the fact that he can't penetrate you fully probably isn't the reason that you're not feeling anything during intercourse. 1) Intercourse alone often isn't that exciting for many women, and 2) most of the sensitive nerve endings of the vagina are at the entrance, so going deeper probably won't add that much in terms of stimulation.
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The problem is, I don't hardly feel anything with any sexual touch. We don't have a lot of options anyway, because even though he's willing, he's unable to do oral. This is sort of maddening in it's own way because I have to wonder if it would work. I've only experienced it one other time and it was pretty insignificant, but maybe it would be less so if he were able to learn how to do it? Also, it's taken a painstakingly long time to even begin to teach him how I'm used to being touched that we've just now started figuring it out. In fact, the only thing I've really felt much pleasure from is being fingered because he can go in deep enough to hit what I assume must be my g-spot. He can't go nearly that deep with intercourse…in fact, I would be surprised if he's getting more than the very tip in. The point is, I know I should be feeling more than what I am. Now I don't think I should be getting an orgasm or anything (because the chances of me getting an orgasm from any sort of sex act other than masturbation is zero anyway), but I should feel SOMETHING.
And even when I do feel something (from fingering), there's still this dull, burning pain. It's not so bad I can't stand it, but it sort of ruins it. I feel myself getting more and more opposed to sex of all kinds and I feel like my sex drive is getting lower and lower. I don't even want to touch myself anymore. I know I have to get over it and just do with him because guys need sex and his sex drive sure isn't waning. It also doesn't help that neither of us really know anything about sex or relationships despite being older (I'm 26 and he's 31).